I have a confession to make.
Almost everyday, I checked my kids’ work. (Sometimes I feel like a mad man chasing for loans to be paid back.)
“Have you finished your homework?”
“Why don’t you know how to do this?”
“What? You don’t know you have spelling tomorrow!”
Have you ever gone through any of this too?
It gets really tiring.
Last year in November, I decided to take a bold step.
Told my eldest, P5 this year. I’m going to let go even more.
“You are responsible for your own work.”
“You do your own revision.”
She got worried.
I felt more worried.
But I pushed on. I tried to look calm.
(But inside I was )
“You are taking school exams. Not me.”
“Papa can focus on spending time with you doing what you like.”
“For academic, I’m training you for the future – at least for sec 1.”
“No more spoon feeding. You are on your own.”
She started to frown.
The turning point came when I told her this.
“And you know I will be here for you whenever you need me.”
(And I gave her a hug.)
No more posting of questions in Whatapp group.
No more safety nets.
No idea how this will turn out.
But I’m willing to give it a try.
How do you start training your kid to learn independently? Love to hear from you too.